Let me share a short story on why I came up with this blog.
I’m a mom of two wonderful girls. They have 7 years age gap and have very different personalities.
I graduated with a degree in Psychology and I’ve worked in Human Resources for over a year on a contractual basis.
I found that working in a corporate world is boring because of the routine that you do every single day.
At that time, it was hard to look for a permanent job because most available jobs were under contractual basis for only 6 months.
So yeah, there was no stability and security tenure in there.
Because of that, I tried different jobs in sales such as direct selling, insurance and the longest job that I had was in one of the top real estate developers in the country.
But I didn’t like sales. I really don’t like selling.
The only reason I lasted long in real estate was because I built friendships with my colleagues. But in spite of being an introvert, I was able to sell properties and earned a very decent amount of commission.
Until I got married and got pregnant with my eldest daughter. It was a delicate pregnancy that’s why my doctor advised me to have complete bed rest.
I never wanted to stay at home for so long because I have always wanted to work.
I even swore to myself that I will earn my own money and not rely on my husband for financial support.
Out of pride and because I have always wanted to be independent and self-reliant, I never wanted to ask for money from my husband. Good thing, I never did because he just gives me part of his salary.
When my eldest daughter turned two years old, I tried going back to work again in real estate.
I don’t know why but I didn’t have the same drive to go to work as I used to. Maybe because I’m leaving the care of my child to my mother-in-law.
I love my mother-in-law, it’s just that I want to be the one to take care of my daughter. It also has not yet crossed my mind to become a stay-at-home mom because I really wanted to earn my own money.
It was separation anxiety every time I would leave the house. My daughter would cry so hard even our neighbors can hear it and it broke my heart.
I really wanted to work but at the same time, I also wanted to be with my daughter in her every milestone especially in her formative years.
The formative years (age 0 to 6), is where moms should really focus on because this is the foundation of a person’s character. Who else is more responsible in doing that if not the mom?
Who else is more concerned about her kid’s physical, mental, and emotional development than the mom?
Yes, the father is concerned, but everybody would agree with me when I say that nothing can beat the love and care of a mother to her children.
So I decided to become a stay-at-home mom.
I was so glad to always being there for my daughter ever since she started schooling. Not only do I get to see her but I also took care of my husband and do all the household chores.
So just like any other stay-at-home mom routine, I got busy preparing my husband’s packed lunch for work, cook breakfast, wash the dishes.
When my husband left for work, I’ll clean the house, feed and coax our kid to eat the veggies that sometimes could last for an hour.
Then comes nap time, then playtime, do the laundry, fold the clothes, go to the market, go to the supermarket and then pay the bills.
The list goes on.
Then I started to feel bored, exhausted, lonely.
I sometimes go out and catch up with my friends or I make it point to have the most sought-after “ME” time. But in spite of the unwinding, I really felt like I need to do something.
Something that would make me feel proud of myself.
I felt like what good is my college education if I am not going to use it? I felt like my college degree is a waste and to think that I went to very good private schools from high school up to college.
When I was young and single, I used to have big dreams. But because I became a stay-at-home mom, my interpersonal skills and creative skills have dwindled away.
What a waste! That’s really what I felt.
Where has my potential gone? I have not yet fully lived up to my potential and now it’s gone? What about my dreams?
I know in my mind that I can achieve them and yet I am busy with all the household chores, parenting and taking care of my family.
Don’t get me wrong. I have nothing against being a stay-at-home mom. My mom is also a housewife and she did amazing in raising 5 children while keeping the house organized.
But it’s just me. I am not resolved to being a stay-at-home mom with no hard-earned money of my own.
As a matter of fact, I think that stay-at-home moms can do more than just cook, change a baby’s diaper, clean the house etc…
Stay-at-home moms are moms with potential that’s yet to be discovered, unleashed and utilized.
Just because we’re stay-at-home moms does not mean we can no longer have dreams that we can achieve.
It does not mean that we can’t earn from home. It does mean that we don’t have the skills and talents.
I believe that stay-at-home moms should do something for themselves to never lose their self-confidence, self-esteem, and self-worth.
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That’s why I created this blog dedicated to stay-at-home moms like me who are in pursuit of self-fulfillment.
Doing so will give you a feeling of satisfaction, joy, and happiness that translates to a better relationship with your family.
I am not a writer. All I have is knowledge I acquired from being a deep observer, a deep thinker, a voracious reader, and a passionate learner.
I want to share them all with you that can perhaps help you in any way to improve if not regain your self-esteem and self-worth.
You can do this by perhaps having your own source of income from home or by just having the right mindset.
I want to inspire stay-at-home moms like me to be the best that they can be.
We are in the information age and we can learn anything we want and develop a marketable skill using the power of the internet.
Everything can be learned online and that’s why you should leverage it to have a career of your own. You can do this in the comfort of your homes without having to leave your kids.
This blog aims to inspire stay-at-home moms that it’s never too late to reach your dreams regardless of your age and no matter how busy you are.
Let’s make use of our God-given resources to us help augment our husband’s earnings and also to help us better ourselves that our kids can emulate.
I believe in the hidden potential of stay-at-home moms. You just have to dig deeper into it and you will uncover it.
If you’ve read this far, I thank you for taking the time to do so and I also thank you for visiting my blog.
Feel free to also share your thoughts and stories.
Why did you choose to become a stay-at-home mom?
What are your dreams that you know you can achieve and what’s stopping you from achieving them?
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